Woman Says She Refused To Be Her Twin Sister’s Surrogate — Then Her Brother-in-Law Started Stalking Her and Threatening To Get Her Pregnant Himself
In a Reddit post, a 30-year-old flight attendant said her identical twin sister asked her to be a surrogate after years of failed IVF and one miscarriage. According to the post, the sister had always wanted children and was devastated by her inability to carry a pregnancy after injuries from a car accident years earlier. The woman said she loved her sister deeply and even offered to donate eggs, but she drew a hard line at pregnancy. She had never wanted children, was terrified of carrying one herself, and said the idea of being pregnant felt tied to the way their own mother died in childbirth. When she said no, her sister exploded, accused her of jealousy and hatred, broke a framed picture of them, and started sending old diaries and vision boards to guilt her into changing her mind.
The fight got worse when the family tried to hash it out at their father’s house. The woman said she came prepared with practical concerns, including the fact that most doctors would not even approve her as a surrogate because she had never given birth before. According to the post, her sister already knew that and had a plan to work around it by pretending the woman and the brother-in-law were a couple at a fertility clinic until the pregnancy was established. Their father was alarmed, but the real blowup came from the brother-in-law, who called her a “selfish bitch” for refusing. Later, on the porch, the sister admitted that her husband and his family had been tormenting her over the miscarriage, even calling her a murderer and telling her she could never “make up for it” unless she gave him a child. She said the idea of using her twin’s body had become a way to get things “back to normal.” The woman said that confession ended any chance she would help them have a baby together.
Then the situation turned dangerous. A few days later, after another football night at her father’s house, she walked out to find two flat tires and a smashed window on her car. When she texted her sister about it, the sister replied that the family was already destroyed and she was refusing to help put it back together. On the drive home, the woman said she noticed her sister’s mother-in-law’s car following her. When she pulled into her driveway, the car followed her in and the brother-in-law got out, supposedly to apologize. Her boyfriend arrived just in time and the two men got into a brief scuffle before the brother-in-law sped off. After that, she stopped feeling safe at home. She packed a bag, went to her boyfriend’s place, and said strange cars began following her on alternating days, always peeling off when she headed toward a police station.
The next escalation happened in public. While out at brunch with friends, she said a waiter came over and told her that her “husband” was up front with an emergency. It was the brother-in-law again. She stepped outside to avoid a scene, and he started apologizing before quickly returning to the same demand that she reconsider. When she tried to walk away, he grabbed a fistful of her hair and screamed at her not to leave. She said she remembers very little after that except strangers jumping in to help and the brother-in-law fleeing before police arrived. A report was filed. Two days later, he showed up at her airport terminal pretending to be her husband with an emergency and was arrested after refusing to leave. After that, the woman said he started sending messages through random text apps describing the things he would do to her, including forcing a pregnancy and killing them both before giving up. She was terrified, barely sleeping, and relying on her boyfriend to drive her everywhere.
The part that made the story even messier was her sister’s reaction. Even after the hair-pulling and arrest, the sister reportedly asked her to drop the charges and insisted her husband had not really hurt her despite her scalp bleeding and scratches on her neck and arms. The woman said she kept sending screenshots of the threats to her sister, partly because she could not believe how long her sister kept defending him. Their father begged her to stop because it was “beating her down,” but the woman refused. From her point of view, if her sister was still making excuses for a man threatening to rape and impregnate her by force, then she needed to see exactly what kind of monster she was protecting.
In the final update, the woman said things got even worse before they got better. Her brother-in-law approached her again at a grocery store, later broke into her home while she was away, smashed things in her bedroom, and destroyed favorite items in her kitchen. She went on leave from work and more or less stayed hidden in her boyfriend’s apartment. Then her sister finally called her in tears. According to the update, the sister admitted she had been following her husband and had confirmed he was following the woman too. She said police were being contacted and spent five hours on the phone apologizing. The sister also admitted something the woman had suspected: the DNA part had mostly mattered to the husband, not to her. She said she had wanted her family whole again and had let herself get pulled into his obsession. Later, their father revealed that the sister had actually had proof he burglarized the home and sat on it for a while before finally going to police. The woman said she was glad her sister did the right thing in the end, but was not sure how she felt about how long it took. Meanwhile, in the middle of all that chaos, her boyfriend proposed, and she said yes.
