Woman says she told her heavily pregnant friend the truth about her fiancé — and within 24 hours she learned her own boyfriend had been part of the same cheating scandal
A woman on Reddit said she thought she was doing one awful but necessary thing for a friend. Instead, by the next day, her entire friend group had blown apart and her own relationship was over too.
She wrote that she and several friends had recently watched a documentary involving a notorious “1,000 men” sex event. At first, they were just shocked by the whole thing. Then two of her friends noticed someone familiar in the footage. According to her post, even though the man’s face was covered, the body shape and especially the tattoos were obvious enough that they were sure it was her heavily pregnant friend’s fiancé. She said she did not believe it at first either, but after watching again, she was convinced.
She knew the timing made it worse. In comments quoted in the BORU thread, she explained that the couple had gotten engaged on Christmas Day, the event in the documentary happened in January, and her friend likely found out she was pregnant around that same time, though she did not tell the group until she was around three months along. The woman said she was terrified of what the stress could do to her pregnant friend because the friend already had panic attacks and there had been problems during the pregnancy. Still, she decided she would rather risk losing the friendship by telling the truth than stay silent and let her friend find out later that she knew.
When she told her, the friend did not lash out. According to the woman, her friend thanked her for being honest and took action right away. Even then, the woman stayed nervous. She wrote that she was a hairdresser and had seen plenty of women swear they were leaving terrible partners, only to go back a few weeks later and turn their anger on the wrong person. So even though she had done what she believed was right, she was still bracing for the possibility that everything could somehow come back on her.
Then the next-day update turned everything upside down.
She wrote that her pregnant friend’s fiancé did not go down quietly. Instead, he posted screenshots from a group chat and photographic “receipts,” exposing other men who had taken part in the same event. Among them, she said, was her own boyfriend of three years. Another friend’s husband was also named. In her words, the fiancé basically decided that if his relationship was going to be destroyed, he was taking everyone else down with him. She quoted his caption as saying, “I wasn’t the only one there,” tagging her and several other women, and telling them to “check your own man” before coming for him.
She said she stopped reading after that. She deleted her social media account, blocked her now-ex, and wrote that she felt physically sick and humiliated. What had started as one friend’s crisis had suddenly become her own public nightmare too. She was no longer just the person bringing bad news to a pregnant friend. She was now one of the women whose partner had apparently been involved. She said she did not even know how she was going to face work the next day, because her phone was exploding and she felt like disappearing.
The comments in the BORU thread made clear how fast the whole thing spread. People focused on how reckless and humiliating it was that multiple men in the same wider circle had apparently taken part in an event that was being filmed and later released publicly. Others pointed out that the women involved all needed STI testing immediately, especially the pregnant friend. One commenter summed up the ugliness of the “revenge reveal” well: the fiancé thought he was getting even, but all he really did was expose how trashy the rest of the men were too.
By the end of the update, the woman was no longer asking whether she should have told her friend. That part of the story was already settled. She had told the truth, and her friend had deserved to know. The real shock was that one act of honesty uncovered a much bigger mess than anyone expected. Instead of one fiancé getting caught, it turned into multiple women learning that the men they were building lives with had all been hiding the same kind of betrayal.
