Woman says her husband wanted to use their honeymoon airline credit on a younger coworker — and she later says that argument was one of the last before the marriage turned violent
A woman on Reddit said she and her husband had spent two years trying and failing to take their delayed honeymoon to France and Germany, building up airline credit they never used because of lockdowns and illnesses. She wrote that she had paid for most of the travel costs, that her husband was much more experienced with travel than she was, and that he had repeatedly discouraged her from using the credit on a domestic trip because, in his view, that would mean giving up on the honeymoon.
Then, according to her post, he came home one day and casually mentioned that a 25-year-old coworker was stranded in Florida after flooding and a totaled car, and that he wanted to use their airline credit to fly her home. She said he did not ask first and did not present it like a conversation. He simply assumed she would be fine with it. When she asked whether the coworker would repay them, he shrugged and said he did not think she needed to because she was in nursing school. The woman, who worked as an ICU nurse herself, said she was stunned and felt like he cared more about helping the coworker than about the trip he had kept insisting he and his wife should save the credit for.
That was the version of the story people first reacted to in 2022. But the update she posted in March 2025 changed the meaning of the whole thing. She wrote that the marriage ended right after that argument and said this was one of the last major fights before she finally got away. In the update, she said he told her she was uncaring for not wanting to help the coworker, then strangled her to the ground until she passed out. She also wrote that by that point in the marriage, the violence was already severe: she said he had choked her multiple times, she had glass in her foot, and she had lost half the hearing in one ear because of a busted eardrum.
She also explained how trapped she had become. According to her update, she had to hand him her phone every evening when she got home from work and only got it back when she left for work the next day. She wrote that when she originally made the Reddit post, she was secretly downloading the audiobook Why Does He Do That? and then deleting it every night before giving him the phone. She said that book helped her understand he would not change and gave her the courage to finally leave for good.
In the same update, she said she had been free of him for nearly three years by the time she found the account again in 2025. She wrote that after leaving, she rebuilt her life, eventually remarried, and was safe and happy. The original question about airline credit and a stranded coworker ended up looking very different in hindsight. What first appeared to be a suspicious marriage argument turned out to be one piece of a much larger pattern of coercion, control, and violence.
