Woman says her dad wanted her at his wedding to the affair partner — then the family started bombarding her after she refused

A woman on Reddit said the collapse of her parents’ marriage had already done enough damage before her father decided he wanted public support for what came next. In a story later collected by r/BestofRedditorUpdates, she wrote that her father had cheated on her mother with a younger coworker, left the marriage, and eventually announced plans to marry the woman he had the affair with. The daughter said she had never made peace with what happened and did not want to attend the wedding.

According to the post, she told her father directly that she would not be there because she did not support the relationship or the way it started. She said that should have been the end of it, but instead the decision touched off a flood of pressure from relatives who thought she should go anyway for the sake of family peace. She described relatives calling, texting, and pushing the line that he was still her father and that skipping the wedding would only make everything worse.

The daughter said the pressure made the whole thing feel even uglier because it turned a private boundary into a group fight. In her telling, the issue was not just the wedding itself. It was being asked to act like the affair and the fallout were now tidy enough to celebrate. She wrote that her father wanted her presence to help normalize the new relationship, while other relatives seemed more focused on appearances than on how the divorce and affair had actually affected her mother or the rest of the family.

When the story reached commenters, many sided with her and argued that an invitation is not an obligation, especially when the event centers the relationship that helped break apart the family. Others noted that relatives often try to force symbolic reconciliation at weddings because they want a clean family photo more than an honest reckoning. The roundup framed the story as a familiar Reddit conflict: one person sets a firm boundary, and the surrounding family tries to turn that boundary into the real offense.

The overall reaction was not really about whether attending one event would fix anything. It was about whether she was being asked to lend emotional cover to a situation she still believed was wrong. By the end of the thread, readers seemed to agree that refusing to attend was less about punishing her father and more about refusing to play along with the rewrite of how his new marriage began.

Here is the original Reddit post.