Woman says she refused to forgive her dad after he left her mom for a much younger woman — and the later update shows the break in the family never really healed
A woman on Reddit said her relationship with her father was shattered when he left her mother for a 21-year-old and started building what felt like a brand-new life while expecting everyone else to adjust. In a post later collected by r/BestofRedditorUpdates, she wrote that the betrayal did not feel limited to her mother. To her, he had betrayed the whole family he built before walking away.
According to the BORU thread, she refused to forgive him or let him back into her life in the easy, cleaned-up way some relatives seemed to want. The post centers on that refusal and on the pressure that often follows these family breaks, where the person who was hurt is expected to be the one who restores peace.
The later update makes clear the story did not end with one angry reaction and then fade. BORU notes a new update tied to the same conflict, which shows the split with her father remained unresolved and serious enough to keep resurfacing long after the original fallout.
What comes through most strongly is that she did not see his actions as a private marriage issue she should stay out of. In her view, when he chose his new relationship, he also chose the damage that came with it, and she was not willing to pretend the family could go back to normal just because time had passed.
By the time the story made the rounds on BORU, it was less about one affair and more about the kind of family rupture that does not close just because the parent who caused it wants access again. The woman’s position was simple: his choices had consequences, and forgiveness was not something he got to demand on his own timeline.
